Low self-esteem is often treated like a quiet inconvenience—something personal, private, and manageable. But the truth is, low self-esteem is expensive. And I don’t just mean emotionally. It comes with real, measurable costs that show up in our relationships, careers, health, and overall quality of life.

For decades, divorce was seen as a young person’s problem — something that happened early, before life fully settled. But a quieter, powerful shift has been unfolding in recent years: gray divorce.

You didn’t lose your intuition.
You were taught to ignore it.

Emotional abuse doesn’t just break hearts—it quietly trains you to doubt your own reality. And long after the relationship ends, that doubt can feel more damaging than the relationship itself, where many women are left asking the same quiet question:

Why don’t I trust myself anymore?

Every January, we set goals with hope and determination—promising ourselves that this year will be different. Yet for many women, those goals quietly fall away within weeks. It’s easy to blame motivation or discipline, but the real issue is often something deeper:

Self-worth.

There comes a moment in every woman’s healing journey when the question quietly shifts.

It’s no longer “Why did this happen to me?” It becomes “What do I choose now?”

Last week, I released an episode from my podcast, Bent Not Broken, that discussed unresolved trauma and its impact. Having dealt with some trauma in my own life, I was surprised to learn how unresolved trauma can manifest itself in our bodies – physically and emotionally – and I wanted to learn more.

There’s a quiet voice that follows me more often than I like to admit. It whispers that no matter how much I accomplish, no matter how hard I try, I’m still falling short. Not smart enough. Not healed enough. Not successful enough. Just… not enough.  Do you ever feel this way?

The holidays are often wrapped in sparkle, celebration, and family gatherings. But for many people—especially women navigating divorce, healing from emotional abuse, or rebuilding life after trauma—this time of year brings something very different:

Loneliness.
Silence.
Grief.
Triggering memories.
And a sense of not belonging anywhere.

Suicide affects people in deeply personal ways. For some, it means living through an attempt. For others, it means facing the unimaginable loss of someone they loved. Both experiences bring profound pain — and both require understanding, compassion, and informed support.

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight—it creeps in quietly. One missed lunch break. One more late night. One too many “yeses” when you should have said “no.” Before you know it, you’re mentally exhausted, emotionally drained, and physically wiped out. Sound familiar?

Divorce can feel like a devastating ending. Unfortunately, I know this feeling all too well having experienced my own messy divorce. But what I learned is that it can also be the beginning of a powerful new chapter. Whether the separation was mutual or one-sided, healing from the emotional fallout requires time, intention, and support. The good news? You can rebuild your life—and create something even stronger and more aligned with who you truly are.

Every November, homes across the United States fill with the familiar aromas of turkey, pumpkin pie, and holiday spices. Families gather around crowded tables, friends reconnect, and time seems to slow down—if only for a moment. But Thanksgiving is more than just a meal; it is a powerful reminder to pause, reflect, and express gratitude for the blessings in our lives.

The holidays have a way of magnifying everything—our joy, our stress, our expectations… and yes, our loneliness. If you’re going through a divorce or navigating your first holiday season without your kids, the emptiness can feel louder than the Christmas music in every store.

After all, in today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to brush off low energy, lack of motivation, or emotional numbness as just stress or exhaustion. But if these feelings linger, you may be dealing with more than just a bad week—you might be experiencing depression.

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We’ve all seen the recent viral video of a couple caught cheating at a Coldplay concert. The moment exploded online, and with it, the internet coined a new term: being Coldplayed—the act of being unintentionally exposed while cheating, particularly in a public or high-profile setting.

But this term has deeper roots.

Freedom comes in many forms—not just political or historical, but deeply personal. This month, as we celebrate Juneteenth, we’re reminded of the power of liberation and the courage it takes to step into your truth.

Toxic relationships are more than just emotionally draining. They can have a lasting impact on your mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. I know, as I have first-hand experience of being in a toxic relationship.

Silence can be deafening—and when it’s used by a narcissist, it becomes one of the most painful forms of emotional abuse. The silent treatment isn’t about taking time to cool off or reflect—it’s about punishment and control. It’s their way of sending a clear, devastating message: You don’t matter until I say you do.