Surviving High-Conflict Divorce: Legal Abuse, Smear Campaigns, and Finding Hope
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Surviving High-Conflict Divorce: Legal Abuse, Smear Campaigns, and Finding Hope

High-conflict divorce is not just a difficult breakup—it’s an entirely different experience that can drain finances, erode mental health, and deeply affect children. In a recent episode of Bent Not Broken, I spoke with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There, Got Out, to unpack what truly makes a divorce “high conflict” and how people can survive it with clarity and strength.

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From Financial Fog to Financial Confidence After Divorce
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

From Financial Fog to Financial Confidence After Divorce

Divorce doesn’t just change your relationship status—it often disrupts your sense of security, confidence, and identity. For many women, finances become one of the most overwhelming and avoided parts of life after divorce. Not because they don’t care, but because money is tangled with fear, grief, and survival mode.

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From Betrayal to Baby Steps: How Reinvention Happens After Divorce
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

From Betrayal to Baby Steps: How Reinvention Happens After Divorce

Reinvention after divorce rarely looks dramatic. It doesn’t arrive with instant clarity, confidence, or certainty. More often, it begins quietly—in survival mode—when life as you knew it suddenly falls apart.

In a recent episode of Bent Not Broken: Life After Divorce, I sat down with Gail Showalter, whose story is a powerful reminder that rebuilding a life after betrayal doesn’t happen all at once. It happens one baby step at a time.

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Self-Love, Sovereignty, and Starting Over: What We Learned from Jonathan Aslay
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Self-Love, Sovereignty, and Starting Over: What We Learned from Jonathan Aslay

When most people think about self-love, they picture self-care routines, soothing rituals, or inspirational quotes. But in my recent conversation with Jonathan Aslay, one of America’s leading midlife self-love coaches, he reminded us that true self-love is something much deeper—and much harder. It is the courageous act of taking responsibility for your emotional life, examining your patterns, and reconnecting with the parts of yourself that have been buried by trauma, heartbreak, and identity loss.

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When Love Erases You: Reclaiming Your Voice After Emotional Manipulation
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

When Love Erases You: Reclaiming Your Voice After Emotional Manipulation

Emotional abuse doesn’t always show up as bruises or yelling. Sometimes it arrives dressed as poetry, rose petals, and the promise of devotion. In my conversation with author, filmmaker, and survivor Nikki Allen, she shared a truth many women know intimately: the most damaging relationships are often the ones that feel like love at first… until they don’t.

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Rebuilding After Divorce: How MaLinda Perry Turned Red Flags Into Renewal
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Rebuilding After Divorce: How MaLinda Perry Turned Red Flags Into Renewal

Divorce is rarely just a legal ending—it’s an emotional unraveling, a loss of identity, and for many women, a journey back to themselves. In my conversation with MaLinda Perry, award-winning industry leader, Gallup Certified Strengths Coach, bestselling author, and founder of Happy Girls Don’t Do That, she opened up about her own deeply personal divorce story—one filled with ignored red flags, manipulation, and the slow erosion of self-worth.

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Rebuilding Life After Divorce: How Strategy, Clarity, and CBT Help You Heal
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Rebuilding Life After Divorce: How Strategy, Clarity, and CBT Help You Heal

Divorce doesn’t just end a relationship—it rewires your sense of self, your confidence, and your belief in what’s possible. In my recent conversation with Dr. Robin Buckley, executive coach, clinical psychologist, and author of Marriage Incorporated, we explored what it truly takes to rebuild your life after separation or emotional abuse. What she shared was powerful, practical, and deeply healing.

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Gray Divorce After 50: Hidden Losses, Healing, and Reinvention
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Gray Divorce After 50: Hidden Losses, Healing, and Reinvention

Gray divorce—divorce occurring after age 50—is one of the fastest-growing relationship trends of our time. In fact, as my guest Una Metz, LICSW, shared on the podcast, the rates of gray divorce have doubled for couples over 50 and tripled for those over 65. And she sees it firsthand: in just two days, two women in their seventies reached out for support.

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From Numb to Alive: How Reclaiming Your Inner Voice Can Change Everything
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

From Numb to Alive: How Reclaiming Your Inner Voice Can Change Everything

Depression doesn’t always look like sadness. Sometimes it looks like numbness—moving through life without joy, without emotion, and without purpose. That’s how empowerment teacher David Allen Brown described his experience on the Bent Not Broken podcast, and his story offers a powerful roadmap for anyone navigating divorce recovery, emotional burnout, or identity loss.

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Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting

Psychological abuse rarely announces itself.

There is no single explosive moment. No clear line where you suddenly realize, This is abuse. Instead, it happens quietly—chip by chip, moment by moment—until your sense of self slowly disappears.

In a recent Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode, I reflected on my powerful and raw conversation with Kristen Crabtree, a certified divorce coach and creator of the Paramore Paradox. Kristen spent 22 years in a psychologically abusive marriage, and what she shared resonated deeply with so many listeners navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and gaslighting.

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Listening to the Voice Within After Divorce and Trauma
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Listening to the Voice Within After Divorce and Trauma

Starting over after divorce—or after emotional abuse, heartbreak, or trauma—can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself. Many women describe this season as survival mode: making decisions out of necessity rather than clarity, doubting themselves, and questioning every step forward.

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When “Fair” Means Losing Everything: Finding Strength After Divorce
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

When “Fair” Means Losing Everything: Finding Strength After Divorce

One of the most painful truths about divorce is that words can suddenly change meaning.

Fair becomes punishment.
Love becomes leverage.
Connection becomes control.

This isn’t just about property. It’s about power — and the deep wound that forms when someone you once trusted chooses harm over humanity.

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Acquired, Not Courted: Surviving a Covert Narcissist — A Conversation with Mia J. Hanks
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Acquired, Not Courted: Surviving a Covert Narcissist — A Conversation with Mia J. Hanks

In this week’s powerful episode of Bent Not Broken, I sat down with award-winning author Mia J. Hanks, whose memoir Bridemaid exposes the hidden and devastating reality of surviving nearly 30 years with a covert narcissist.

One sentence from her book has already struck a deep chord with so many listeners:

“I hadn’t been courted—I had been acquired.”

This wasn’t just a line on a page.
It was the truth she had been living for decades.

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💔 When Everything Changed: Reclaiming Your Voice After Divorce and Emotional Abuse
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

💔 When Everything Changed: Reclaiming Your Voice After Divorce and Emotional Abuse

In this powerful episode of Bent Not Broken, I had the privilege of sitting down with Wendy Babcock, award-winning songwriter, speaker, and founder of When Stories — a platform dedicated to helping women transform their pain into purpose.

Wendy’s journey is one of unimaginable courage. At just sixteen, she entered a relationship with a man thirteen years her senior. Over time, the red flags turned into patterns of control, isolation, and emotional abuse. By the time she was a young mother, Wendy’s every move was monitored — every phone call, every outing, every moment of independence questioned.

But there came a day — standing alone in an empty trailer with her two children — when she knew something had to change. That day became her when moment: the turning point where fear met freedom.

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From Toxic Love to True Connection: How to Rebuild Confidence and Find Real Love
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

From Toxic Love to True Connection: How to Rebuild Confidence and Find Real Love

Have you ever found yourself repeating the same relationship patterns, wondering why you attract people who drain your energy or diminish your worth? You’re not alone. In a recent episode of the Bent Not Broken podcast, I sat down with Kerry Brett — master photographer, dating strategist, and author of Shot at Love — to discuss how women can break free from toxic love and rediscover their confidence.

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