There’s a quiet voice that follows me more often than I like to admit. It whispers that no matter how much I accomplish, no matter how hard I try, I’m still falling short. Not smart enough. Not healed enough. Not successful enough. Just… not enough.  Do you ever feel this way?

Divorce can feel like a devastating ending. Unfortunately, I know this feeling all too well having experienced my own messy divorce. But what I learned is that it can also be the beginning of a powerful new chapter. Whether the separation was mutual or one-sided, healing from the emotional fallout requires time, intention, and support. The good news? You can rebuild your life—and create something even stronger and more aligned with who you truly are.

As I’ve been interviewing guests for my new podcast, Bent Not Broken: Starting Over After Abuse, several have mentioned the term “covert narcissist.” I’ve experienced narcissistic behavior before, but it made me wonder—what’s the difference between a narcissist and a covert one? The word “narcissist” has become more familiar in recent years as research sheds light on this complex personality disorder.

Life has a way of testing our strength when we least expect it. One moment, everything feels steady—and the next, we’re facing a storm that shakes the very foundation we stand on. But here’s the truth. Resilience isn’t about never falling apart. It’s about learning how to bend without breaking.

A Vegas encounter taught me that the most valuable things we bring home aren't souvenirs, but clarity about what we truly deserve in relationships after divorce.

Breaking free from an abusive relationship marks the courageous initiation of a journey toward self-discovery and healing. It's a profound decision that demands resilience, strength, and a commitment to rebuilding one's life. The path to recovery may be challenging, but it is undoubtedly transformative.