Self-Love, Sovereignty, and Starting Over: What We Learned from Jonathan Aslay
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Self-Love, Sovereignty, and Starting Over: What We Learned from Jonathan Aslay

When most people think about self-love, they picture self-care routines, soothing rituals, or inspirational quotes. But in my recent conversation with Jonathan Aslay, one of America’s leading midlife self-love coaches, he reminded us that true self-love is something much deeper—and much harder. It is the courageous act of taking responsibility for your emotional life, examining your patterns, and reconnecting with the parts of yourself that have been buried by trauma, heartbreak, and identity loss.

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Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting

Psychological abuse rarely announces itself.

There is no single explosive moment. No clear line where you suddenly realize, This is abuse. Instead, it happens quietly—chip by chip, moment by moment—until your sense of self slowly disappears.

In a recent Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode, I reflected on my powerful and raw conversation with Kristen Crabtree, a certified divorce coach and creator of the Paramore Paradox. Kristen spent 22 years in a psychologically abusive marriage, and what she shared resonated deeply with so many listeners navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and gaslighting.

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