Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Psychological Abuse Doesn’t Happen All at Once: Healing After Divorce and Gaslighting

Psychological abuse rarely announces itself.

There is no single explosive moment. No clear line where you suddenly realize, This is abuse. Instead, it happens quietly—chip by chip, moment by moment—until your sense of self slowly disappears.

In a recent Bent Not Broken bonus coaching episode, I reflected on my powerful and raw conversation with Kristen Crabtree, a certified divorce coach and creator of the Paramore Paradox. Kristen spent 22 years in a psychologically abusive marriage, and what she shared resonated deeply with so many listeners navigating divorce, emotional abuse, and gaslighting.

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Listening to the Voice Within After Divorce and Trauma
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

Listening to the Voice Within After Divorce and Trauma

Starting over after divorce—or after emotional abuse, heartbreak, or trauma—can leave you feeling disconnected from yourself. Many women describe this season as survival mode: making decisions out of necessity rather than clarity, doubting themselves, and questioning every step forward.

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When “Fair” Means Losing Everything: Finding Strength After Divorce
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

When “Fair” Means Losing Everything: Finding Strength After Divorce

One of the most painful truths about divorce is that words can suddenly change meaning.

Fair becomes punishment.
Love becomes leverage.
Connection becomes control.

This isn’t just about property. It’s about power — and the deep wound that forms when someone you once trusted chooses harm over humanity.

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📺 From “Leave It to Beaver” to “Modern Family”: How TV Redefined the American Family
Deborah Griffiths Deborah Griffiths

📺 From “Leave It to Beaver” to “Modern Family”: How TV Redefined the American Family

In this thought-provoking (and fun!) episode of Bent Not Broken, host Deborah Griffiths teams up with media strategist and visionary Julie Lokun, JD, to explore how television has both reflected and reshaped the American family.

What started as wholesome black-and-white images of the 1950s nuclear household has evolved into a colorful mosaic of blended, single, and chosen families. Together, Deborah and Julie unpack how TV shows have mirrored social change, challenged norms, and helped redefine what it truly means to belong.

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