Lost in Transition? How to Reclaim Your Identity When Life Changes!
Life transitions, whether planned or unexpected, can shake the very foundation of who we are. From career changes and divorce to becoming a parent or retiring, these shifts can leave us feeling lost, uncertain, and disconnected from our former selves. The question, "Who am I now?" often emerges during these transitions, creating an identity crisis that can feel overwhelming. I know I have experienced this feeling as I went through my divorce.
So how and why does identity loss happen? Identity is deeply tied to our roles, routines, and relationships. When those change, it’s easy to feel as if we’ve lost a part of ourselves. A high-powered executive who steps away from a corporate career may struggle with a sense of purpose. A newly divorced person might question their value outside of their marriage. Even positive transitions, like becoming a parent, can lead to an identity shift as personal goals and priorities change.
This loss occurs because much of our self-worth is unconsciously attached to external factors—our jobs, relationships, achievements, and even social status. When those factors shift, it creates a void, making us feel unmoored and unsure of our next steps.
Here are some tips you can use to overcome identity loss:
Acknowledge the Transition – Accept that feeling lost is a normal part of change. Give yourself grace and time to adjust.
Reflect on Your Core Values – Your true self is not tied to a job or relationship. Identify what truly matters to you—your passions, beliefs, and long-term goals.
Explore New Possibilities – Try new activities, hobbies, or roles that align with your authentic self. This is an opportunity for reinvention.
Reconnect with Yourself – Journaling, meditation, or therapy can help you process emotions and rediscover who you are beyond external labels.
Surround Yourself with Support – Lean on mentors, coaches, or like-minded communities that uplift and encourage you.
Embrace Growth – Rather than mourning what was, shift your mindset to see this as a chance to create a new, empowered version of yourself.
Transitions, though difficult, are an invitation to redefine your life on your terms. Your identity isn’t lost, it’s evolving. Trust yourself in the process, and you’ll emerge stronger, wiser, and more aligned with who you are meant to be. If you're ready to take control of your next chapter, let's connect! Join my community or book a coaching session today, and let’s start rebuilding your confidence and purpose together.
Until next time,
Coach Deborah Griffiths
Website: www.brokentoboldness.com
Email: deborah@brokentoboldness.com
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